Learning to say no

Learning to say no  
     As I sit down to take a break from packing (because I over exerted myself to the point of nearly fainting) I am reminded of a lesson I am learning this year; learning to say no. My hands are shaky as I write this and I try to take a few breaths to calm my heartbeat before I continue.

    As an empathetic (sometimes overly so) person I am generally the first person to volunteer to help when the opportunity presents itself. However there are periods of time where it seems everyone needs help and life just gets busier. These are the times when you need to say no. 

      There are a few things to consider when saying no to someone. How much are you physically capable of without over extending yourself? How much time and resources will it actually take? Also consider what the benefits of saying yes are. Are those benefits worth the exchange or are there other ways you could be better serving God? 

       This year I am trying to be more aware of my boundaries. Boundaries are important in many aspects of life. As a young person my boundaries have been very flexible up to this point. I’m not saying that I need boundaries of steel. However it is very important for my well being that I learn to say no when the pressure is too great. 

-Dominique Barrentine 


Author: dominiquebarrentine

I am a twenty four year old woman, Christian, survivor, teacher and artist. I recently finished writing my first book, "Today, Tomorrow, and Yesterday," a memoir of my life and I started a blog www.thatcrazylife.wordpress.com My book is in the editing phase but I hope to have it done before my birthday in November. I love to paint, draw, sing, dance, and all sorts of other things. Check out my blog to learn more...

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